Have you ever been ghosted? By a friend, a date, someone you met and really liked? It certainly can kick the feet from under your chair. I just saw that Drew Barrymore made a comment about being ghosted basically saying she’s sorry if it’s ever happened to you because it sucks, and she’s absolutely right.
I remember the first time I was ghosted. It was a few years back when I first started using dating apps. I was on bumble and I met a few people and went on dates, but one guy and I hit it off from the start. It was like we had known each other for years and we just clicked. We hung out three times in one week and then I never heard from him again. But at first I was so naive thinking something happened to him and something was wrong. Hahaha you poor girl. Nope, I shortly realized this was being ghosted.
Of course, being ghosted really put me in my feelings. I instantly was triggered by the rejection. It brought out my worst insecurities. How I wasn’t good enough, my body, maybe I was too much, etc. It’s okay to be in your feelings, to feel them so that you can process, but it’s also important to then get back up and focus on what’s really important.
The universe is funny, I wrote this blog post yesterday as a draft, and this morning on my drive to work I listened to Rob Dial’s podcast The Mindset Mentor. Today’s episode was about being afraid of Rejection. Hmm I don’t believe in coincidences so of course I listened intently. He said that when we get rejected, we should shift our view and reassess our goals and use it to help make us better. Use it as a motivator to the best of your ability.
I’ve been ghosted since then, and I’m sure It’s not the end as I was reminded this week. Either way, I think we are human and it will always hurt our feelings being rejected and it’s okay to not be okay. I do however think it’s important to take a step back and understand that people behave based on their own reality. Being ghosted was like a reminder to myself to keep focusing on being Me, growing, learning, and always keeping my heart and eyes open at all times.
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Unapologetically Sam 